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Happy Holiday Season 2012 everyone! This is a repost from last year, but thought I’d post it again in the holiday spirit. Blessings to you all. Thanks for reading my blog!

Deck the halls with boughs of holly, fa la la la la, la la la-la.

Fast away the old year passes,
Fa la la la la, la la la la.
Hail the new, ye lads and lasses,
Fa la la la la, la la la la.

Sing we joyous, all together,
Fa la la la la, la la la la.
Heedless of the wind and weather,
Fa la la la la, la la la la.

The old year is passing quickly. We’re almost to the new. There are going to be obstacles and things that make us want to stay indoors, like wind and rain, but we can’t let anything stand in our way. A new year is coming- Let’s make change!

Some women say, “we have equal rights. I don’t want to be the same as men.”

I have also read stuff on the internet that promotes that same idea- that women having equal rights, opportunities, and same pay as men means women want to be the same as men. For everyone (men and women) who believes that: We don’t want to be the same as men- we’re pretty awesome as we are!

Women have a lot of amazing ideas, skills, talents, and drive. We should be able to be liked, promoted, recognized when we do something great because we do something great, not because of our looks or because we show our bodies or because we hate-on other women.

We all view women with a different lens than the lens we use to view men. For example: men are seen as strong if they speak up or call somebody out on something, women are seen as bitches. Another example: men’s sports are way more popular than women’s.

Men are seen in a different way. Again, we’re different, so that’s fine- until different means better. Essentially that’s what it is, men are seen as better. Why? Because the system gives them power and as part of the system, we all continue to give them power. But power is not always bad, you say.

It’s power-over others. Power-over others in a society doesn’t allow all people to think and act for themselves.

I don’t want to spend a lot of time trying to convince men we don’t hate them and we think they’re okay. The system of patriarchy that’s in place also makes men believe that women standing up for themselves means they are “man-haters.” That’s not true. So, men, just trust it, we don’t hate you.

The system set up has everyone stop and listen when men speak, but to ignore women. It’s set up so that men aren’t seen as people who have feelings, so when they express some kind of feeling they have, everyone drops everything to cater to him because it must be real and important. It has been more acceptable for women to show emotion, so often when women express our feelings, we are seen as hysterical and emotional. When men have new ideas, everyone pays attention to them and considers them. When women have new ideas, they might not be heard or they might be dismissed. Men are seen as in charge- top of the rung would be wealthy white men. That’s not to say that wealthy white men are bad necessarily, it’s to say they have the most power in the society.

With a system change, all people can be seen as important, valuable, and needed rather than a burden.

First things first with the system change. What I’m talking about leaves women more able to make decisions in the society, for our lives, and for our bodies. That stops violence against women, children, and men. That allows both men and women to be as great as we can be, rather than holding us back because of stereotypes or gender roles.

Feminism is a movement that has been in response to the oppression of women. It also calls for a change in the system. Call this whatever you want. I’m talking a complete remodel. What we have now is outdated. So, let’s update.

I happened upon a great quote from a novel I was referencing the other day. It speaks to power and oppression.

“The narrower a man’s intellectual grasp, the more power he is able to grab in this country.” -From The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle by Haruki Murakami

People who can’t open their minds, who are unwilling to imagine a different system that celebrates women and men equally, one that respects women, one that encourages us all to participate in life and have a voice about what we need, want, and can do in this world, don’t see the true value in others and therefore will take what they want only for themselves.

The narrower your view, the less you can see others as valuable and the more power you will grab for yourself. If you can see the possibilities and the good stuff within each person, you’ll want them to also be able to speak and you won’t hog the mic the whole time.

This world can be a better place, with more love, more peace, more creativity if women and men have equal rights and women are respected. There are so many people battling this patriarchy right now. It’s going to mean men stand up and respect women. It also means, and perhaps most importantly, women stand up for themselves and each other. We have to be on one another’s side. We are strong when we are united!

Hail the new, ye lads and lasses
Sing we joyous, all together
Heedless of the wind and weather
We can change this

Fa la la la la, la la la- la

Happy Holidays!