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D’Avonte Meadows was suspended last week from his Elementary School near Denver, Colorado. His suspension notice from the school claimed that the boy said the line to a female classmate, “I’m sexy and I Know It” from the LMFAO hit song. It was the second time he had done so.

Is this sexual harassment? The school said yes.

I’m going to say no. I’m going to say he’s 6 years old and that song is all over the radio. Plus, what’s wrong with saying that? 

Isn’t the message of our culture: “Be sexy” ? He’s saying he is and affirming it. It’s funny. He’s six. Come on- lighten up!

I went to a holiday party two Decembers ago where there was a DJ. My boss, a stylin’ 55 year old woman, was out on the dance floor, as were a bunch of her employees. Then that T-Pain song came on:

She’s got those apple bottom jeans, boots with the furs…
The whole club was looking at her…

It goes on-

That’s what I told her, her legs on my shoulder
I knew it was ova, that Henny and Cola
Got me like a Soldier
She ready for Rover, I couldn’t control her
So lucky oo me, I was just like a clover
Shorty was hot like a toaster
Sorry but I had to fold her,
Like a pornography poster

Completely inappropriate, in my opinion- we’re at a work party and it’s a song that totally objectifies women. Rather than continue dancing, I sat down because though the song is catchy, it puts women in a horrible light. Plus, it felt odd to be dancing to it in that environment.

It’s a song that used to be on the radio all the time, just like the LMFAO song.

Was that sexual harassment by the DJ of the party. It could be, I suppose, depending on what definition you are using of sexual harassment.

These songs are all over our media. Are they bad pop songs that objectify and sexualize women? Yes! Do six year olds and other children hear them? Unless they are locked in their rooms, yes.

Here are some of the lyrics of the Sexy and I Know It song by LMFAO:

(Ahhh) Girl look at that body (x3)
I-I-I work out
(Ahhh) Girl look at that body (x3)
I-I-I work out
When I walk in the spot, (yea) this is what I see (okaay)
Everybody stops and they staring at me
I got a passion in my pants and I ain’t afraid to show it, show it, show it, show it…
I’m sexy and I know it (x2)
Yo, when I’m at the mall, security just can’t fight them off
When I’m at the beach, I’m in a speedo trying to tan my cheeks (whaat?)
This is how I roll, come on ladies it’s time to go
We headed to the bar, baby don’t be nervous
No shoes, no shirt, and I still get service (watch!)

Some of those lyrics, I doubt he even understood. But he didn’t even sing them, he said the words “I’m sexy and I Know It.” So what?

If it was a distraction to other students and to the girl student he was trying to impress, couldn’t the school have handled it differently? It might make learning difficult for the girl or she might be uncomfortable, but why was there no other way to address his behavior? Why was there not another method of discipline that would work.

The assistant principal talked to him once the first time after he danced around and then he said it without singing and dancing. It sounds like he got the message that he shouldn’t sing and dance the lyric, so he spoke it. If it’s being viewed as harassment, the school should help him learn how the girl feels when he does that, help him understand that he might be intimidating her. Suspending him is ridiculous. If this is real sexual harassment, the school needs to help him understand why his actions were unacceptable, not get him out of their hair by suspension.

I feel sad for this little guy. They are setting him up to get in trouble in the future and in this case, for something as minor as repeating a song lyric. If I had a child in his class, I would be mad that my child was seeing this as an example of someone being told to shut up and then calling it sexual harassment. And if it was my child, I would be livid- at the school, not him.

Plus-  what does it say about serious sexual harassment that happens to women and teenage girls all the time? 

It makes it seem trivial and absurd when it is serious and often dangerous and can lead to women being torn between supporting their families and being sexually assaulted.

This is a six year old who is still learning how to be in the world. He has been on the planet for 6 years- that’s not a long time. I don’t consider this to be a serious case of sexual harassment and it is insulting to the many people who have dealt with sexual harassment and who have been hurt by it.

It also gives the American people the idea that sexual harassment is trivial, not real, or absurd.

The school should be suspended for not working out another alternative and educating like they are supposed to. This is a serious case of a kid being a kid and getting a horrific adult reaction. Give the kid a break.